“We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our bodies.” – 2 Corinthians 4:8-10
“I consider that what we suffer at this present time cannot be compared at all with the glory that is going to be revealed to us.” – Romans 8:18
“The Lord is near to those who are discouraged; he saves those who have lost all hope.” – Psalm 34:18
Dear Beautiful Roses,
I want to talk to you about heartbreak today. It’s a phase we all often try to avoid or run from. It’s a phase that brings discomfort and discontentment. A phase that challenges us subliminally redirects us, requires sacrifice and exposes us. I’ll be the first to admit that it is hard. The pain you go through trying to hold on to something you still have hope in, but has lost all hope in you is difficult to face. You go through a series of emotions trying to figure out what you did wrong, what could’ve been done better, why you weren’t worthy of having something as beautiful as love, and praying to God for a miracle that this man would one day see the “wife” in you. The woman you tried to be for him since the moment you made the decision to give him a chance. Besides, you had it all figured out. You knew this had to be the man you would marry, finally the man God sent for you. You planned out your future life, mentally arranged the wedding, named your future kids, thought of all the things you could do to live out your dream of a beautiful life with this person. Failing to realize that in these moments you’ve begun to place all of your hope and happiness in the palm of man’s hands. Everything you did was to keep this dream relationship alive, even if it meant compromising your needs and wants without reciprocation. You gave the things that weren’t given to you; you were selfless when they were being selfish; you listened but was never heard; you understood but they never attempted to understand you; your desires, your needs, your dreams, your sacrifice. Your pride made you refuse to give up everything you put in work for because of a little tension. You were willing to ride for this person forever, without question or doubt. They let you down and all of those dreams fell apart. BUT in that moment, God called you, and he said: “Come to me and I will make your loads light”. The Lord saw everything you’ve done. He saw the times you were ignored without reason, the times you felt alone, the times you cried yourself to sleep with no one to talk to or comfort you. He saw your desire to be loved and he wants to be the one to love you if you let him. You see, we often get so wrapped up in the love man has to offer us, but we forget that no person has the ability to love us the way God does. We forget about how much the Lord loves us, chasing the idea of love from a man. The Lord’s love never ends, it can’t be duplicated, and it will never leave you unexpectedly; it is unconditional, agape love. If we begin to seek the Lord and ask him to help us find Godly love for ourselves in the midst, we will take the first steps to healing. Understand, you do not have to run away from the pain of being alone. I know it gets cold. Find your companionship in the Lord and ask him to align you with the will he has for your life. I learned that my relationship with the Lord is the most important relationship to have. I too hate the feeling of hurt and I get tired of always crying at night, but when I asked God for a change of heart and meant it, I began to feel better about myself and my calling. I learned that my purpose is not in a person, but it is in God. A person could only enhance my life, but they could never be the core of it. I learned that when you place your highest expectations on people you only put yourself into position to be hurt, but when you place those unto the Lord, he will indeed be able to exceedingly and abundantly meet your needs and desires. Remember in your times of pain always seek comfort from the Lord first. He has a plan for your destiny and often times everyone isn’t meant to be taken with you; sometimes it is not the right time to awaken love with the person you desire. In all ask the Lord for confirmation, he will show you his will and what is yours, what he has better in store, and what you need to do to get to the next level. God loves you and has plans for you, let him work.